fix: continue updating backends during shutdown

[grounded042]

What this PR does / why we need it:

Draft PR for fixing #13215. Will fill out more soon.

Types of changes

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• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
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Which issue/s this PR fixes

fixes #13215

How Has This Been Tested?

I've tested it manually via make dev-env and following re-production steps in #13215

Checklist:

TODO

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• I have updated the documentation accordingly.
• I've read the CONTRIBUTION guide
• I have added unit and/or e2e tests to cover my changes.
• All new and existing tests passed.

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[strongjz]

Talked with @grounded042 during sync. he is going to add a go unit test and then we can review for 1.13 release.

[strongjz]

/triage accepted
/ok-to-test
/priority backlog
/kind feature