Timeline for Why all the negativity?
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| Mar 26, 2017 at 20:21 | comment | added | Todd Trimble Mod | @GregMartin Thanks. I was quite aware of my pronoun choices, and indeed they were deliberately made that way to mirror the actual circumstances of the MO post that was referred to in the discussion. (Please note the I also used 'she' in the second paragraph, again as part of the choice-design. The 'he' in the same paragraph is strictly speaking not part of that design, but refers to a 'noob' where I didn't think it would be seen as biased against women.) Hope that makes sense! | |
| Mar 26, 2017 at 20:10 | comment | added | Greg Martin | Thank you Todd for a very thoughtfully composed answer, for acknowledging that gender bias probably plays an undesired role on this site, and for emphasizing that you believe the OP's description of her experience. Related note: one choice I have made is to use gender-neutral pronouns, almost all the time really, but certainly when I'm not referring to a specific person whose gender is known. I observe that in your answer, you twice use male pronouns to refer to hypothetical people. I'm not saying you must automatically make the same choices I do, but I wanted to at least suggest it to you. | |
| Mar 25, 2017 at 22:39 | comment | added | Todd Trimble Mod | @j.c. Thanks for the reminder. If my memory is correct, that's what used to be under Help before the merger with SE. | |
| Mar 25, 2017 at 21:35 | comment | added | j.c. | re: "How can I make sure my questions are positively received?" I'll take this opportunity to complain again that I think the awesome advice in this old post meta.mathoverflow.net/a/883 deserves to be placed in a much more prominent place. Compare the relatively generic info here mathoverflow.net/help/how-to-ask . | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 22:40 | comment | added | user10290 | Thanks, I'm not upset anymore. It is very helpful to talk about. I'm sure a lot of it has to do with people not really knowing each other, so not knowing their level of understanding or misinterpreting words, without any other cues, over the internet. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 22:22 | comment | added | Andy Putman | @Erin Carmody : I personally answer questions under my own name, but mostly ask them under fake ones. I have thick skin, but I prefer not to have to deal with the occasional snarky comments I get when I ask questions about topics that are outside my comfort zone. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 22:10 | history | edited | Todd TrimbleMod | CC BY-SA 3.0 | corrected some information; added a link |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 22:05 | comment | added | Todd Trimble Mod | @CarloBeenakker Ah, great; thanks! I'll edit my post to reflect the information I found there. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 21:58 | comment | added | Carlo Beenakker | For reference, I guess this is the tea discussion you mentioned. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 20:14 | comment | added | Todd Trimble Mod | I'm glad you posted at meta too, Erin. And, it's true that one can find a lot of negativity at MO. Most of it I think has to do with underdeveloped netiquette skills. Tricky business. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 19:57 | comment | added | user10290 | Hey everyone, I really appreciate all the comments and answers. I did sort of figure out what I did wrong early in the comments and decided to re-ask my question. It was actually very helpful for me to have this meta site to express my feelings. It helped a lot to feel supported. If you saw all my deleted questions you might see what I am referring to. I think I'm getting a thicker skin about it anyway, and learning that you all are open to communication. And that maybe everyone experiences the same scrutiny. | |
| Mar 24, 2017 at 19:22 | history | answered | Todd TrimbleMod | CC BY-SA 3.0 |