No. Enumerate all positive integers which are not powers of 2$2$: $3=n_1<n_2<n_3<\dots$ and partition positive integers onto pairsinto two-element sets $(n_i,2^{i-1})$$\{n_k,2^{k-1}\}$. TakeLet $a_{i,j}=1$ wheneverif the set $(i,j)$$\{i,j\}$ is our pairsuch a two-element set, and let $a_{i,j}=0$ otherwise. We get a symmetric bistochastic matrix, and all ones's$1$'s are only in the rows or columns indexed by a power of 2$2$. We have $O(\log n)$ such entries in a square $\{1,2,\dots,n\}^2$.