Move pipeline agg validation to coordinating node (backport of #53669)

[nik9000]

This moves the pipeline aggregation validation from the data node to the
coordinating node so that we, eventually, can stop sending pipeline
aggregations to the data nodes entirely. In fact, it moves it into the
"request validation" stage so multiple errors can be accumulated and
sent back to the requester for the entire request. We can't always take
advantage of that, but it'll be nice for folks not to have to play
whack-a-mole with validation.

This is implemented by replacing PipelineAggretionBuilder#validate
with:

protected abstract void validate(ValidationContext context); 

The ValidationContext handles the accumulation of validation failures,
provides access to the aggregation's siblings, and implements a few
validation utility methods.