feat: use xxhash for error grouping key

[kruskall]

Motivation/summary

bump apm-data and replace md5 with xxhash

Checklist

• Update CHANGELOG.asciidoc
• Documentation has been updated

For functional changes, consider:

• Is it observable through the addition of either logging or metrics?
• Is its use being published in telemetry to enable product improvement?
• Have system tests been added to avoid regression?

How to test these changes

Related issues

Closes elastic/apm-data#146

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This pull request does not have a backport label. Could you fix it @kruskall? 🙏
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